Thank you Martin Satchell

News reached me on Christmas Day that my friend Martin Satchell had died in Australia.

Without going too much into detail, it was the end of a very fast descent as a result of cancer.  We lost him more quickly than we could ever have imagined.  He was in his early fifties.

Since hearing the news I have received a number of emails from friends who have shared their memories of him and shared how shocked they are that he is no longer with us.

For those people who have followed this blog for some time you should know that, almost without exception, the great days that I have told you about in Hanoi – Martin was with me.

Most of those were with KOTO.  Wonderful field trips, events and Christmas.  But there were others too like the day Hoa Phat won the cup and great nights out.  I recall a wondrous start to the lunar new year in Hoi An as Martin and I looked on opened mouthed as flaming lanterns disappeared into the night sky.

In many ways the difference between my incredible volunteering experience in Vietnam and the hardship of Cameroon was that in Hanoi I had a friend like Martin.

Because we had tough times at KOTO too.  There were times when it nearly closed down due to the financial pressures.  On occasions one of us would lose it or would feel like chucking in the towel.  Not Martin, he just kept his head down and just kept working.

While I was backed by a volunteer organisation, Martin was pretty much self-supporting.  He did consultancy work in his spare time in order to continue to assist at KOTO.  He started a week or two after me and finished a couple of years later. Martin always worked.  Not out of some Victorian work ethic, and not just because he needed the money, he worked because he enjoyed it.

At KOTO he taught hundreds of former street kids to cook to a professional level.  His training helped them complete a journey from the streets to professional kitchens.  He was far and away the best person to teach them – he had used the very same skills to see the world.  From Coventry he worked across Europe and onto an extended stay in Australia before he was to fall in love with Vietnam.

I never heard him complain and yet he’d sit and listen to my own rantings without judgment.  Then, when I’d got it all out of my system, he’d get another beer in and we’d start talking about football or music instead.  I was constantly uploading tunes for him – it was part of Martin’s charm that he always struggled with technology.

I can remember him discovering mobile phones.  Texting was a revelation to him.

It strikes me that such was Martin’s love of life that I am sure that I am not the only person who enjoyed the best time of my life in his company.  He brought out the best in people and his ability to absolutely enjoy his surroundings was infectious.

His knack of going with the flow was a master class in how to survive the madness of Hanoi.

When I was out with him he’d constantly greet people with warm hellos.  Mostly it was directed at one of his wide circle of friends.  On other occasions he’d admit he’d never met them before in his life.

He just liked meeting new people.

At the same time, however, a lot of his life remained private.  By the time I returned to Hanoi he had set up a new business. I tried to help him promote it with media coverage but, on the whole, he hated having his picture in the paper.

His business The Cart survives him and will be carried on using Martin’s recipes. It will provide an income to his Vietnamese business partner and staff.

The truth is I would never have returned to Hanoi if Martin hadn’t been there.  The lure of good friends, after a period of loneliness for me, was as important as seeing Hanoi again. (Check out Martin’s cameo on the video of my first few days back).

He used to tell a tale of how he’d first heard about KOTO from a friend who had sent a postcard from the old restaurant.  Good food for a great cause.  It was a sign and he couldn’t resist it.

When he first arrived we shared an office for a while.  To outsiders we must have seemed like loons. We were bouncing off the walls both of us.  Neither of us could believe our luck that life was so good. Far and away the best days of my life. I have never laughed nor smiled so much.

When he last left Hanoi we thought he was on the mend and it would only be a matter of time before he’d be back with us.  He’d just survived brain surgery and he said it felt like a second chance.

He talked animatedly of wanting to help people again.  He asked me to be involved.  What could we do between us?  What could we set up?  Who could we help?

At that point he was still in a wheelchair and I just wanted him to get better.  In the end the full extent of his illness revealed itself in Australia and, very very quickly, he was gone.

He touched people’s lives so gently.  He wasn’t loud.  There was no ego.  Just a sense of humour and adventure and a desire to live life to the full.  He enjoyed teasing and being teased.  Everyone who knew him has a great Martin tale.

Personally, I have so much to be grateful for. My life would have been immeasurably poorer if we had never met.  He will be missed by so many people. So much of what is good in my life seem to have come directly from knowing Martin.

In his  “beloved Hanoi”, as he called it, he will be remembered by Vietnamese and expat a like.

A life cut short, maybe, but still a great life.  I am so so grateful to have known him.

Thanks Martin.

Pic below is me and Martin at the KOTO talent show.  More Martin pics here.

Sapa Talent Show with Me and Martin


16 Comments on “Thank you Martin Satchell”

  1. meemalee says:

    So sorry Steve, sounds like you lost a great friend and the world lost a great person xx

  2. mrs K says:

    Steve, your heart has many rooms and memories are stored in them. A room has closed with the loss of Martin, but another has opened. You will visit the room that holds the Martin memories often and as time passes the hurt and loss will pass.

    There are too few Martin’s around and to lose one early is so sad.

  3. kerryanne says:

    What a beautifully written post.

    We are big fans of Koto & reading this really made it more special.

    I’m so sorry you lost such a dear friend.

  4. Jill says:

    Thanks Steve for writing a fitting tribute to my brother Martin. He will be sadly missed & never forgotten.

  5. Matt P says:

    I’m so sorry to hear that. My wife took him to hospital that first day but we thought he was on the mend too…

    We both have very fond memories of martin, though we were mainly occasional party drinking buddies, he was always a pleasure to be around.

    Our thoughts are with Martin’s friends and family.

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  7. Patty says:

    Steve, man I had no idea.. I was thinking about him only the other day, about bumping into him at Le Pub every so often and always enjoying conversations with him – this comes as a shock..

    thank you for the beautiful post.

    hope you’re well
    xx

  8. Brian says:

    Steve,

    I’m sorry for you and for all of Martin’s family, friends and acquaintances; your post is one of your most simple and eloquent you’ve ever written – a moving yet gentle salute to an obviously great human being. I’m truly sorry for your loss, but heartened to hear how much love you and others had for a very special person.

    Be loud and colourful on the 16th! Beers, not tears! Courage.

    Brian and Mino

  9. Alan says:

    Damn, what a well-written post. The picture of Martin at the top cracks me up. Sad to lose a friend like that…

    Take care,

    Alan
    http://alaninkenya.org

  10. Tim Boyes-Watson says:

    Thanks for sharing this wonderful post Steve. I have very fond memories Martin even though I didn’t have the chance to get to know jim very well. As a fellow Coventrian we shared a deep love of The Specials! I’d like to add my appreciation of Martin’s contribution to KOTO and also the amazing creative and humourous energy he brought to any social gathering. He demonstrated the amazing power of finding something you are good at and then sharing that passion with others.

    Martin truly led a life worth celebrating and I can celebrate the fact that I got to meet him and be influenced by him.

    Tim

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  12. dave dainty says:

    i`m totally gutted, my heartfelt condolences to his mum ,chris and jill over their sad loss, been trying to track him down for ages,proud to read about what he has achieved with his life. a top top lad,always had a smile and was so laid back he was almost horizontal!! great to see some photos of him,hasnt changed apart from his blue tinted glasses!! a moving tribute steve,well done! its bringing a tear to my eyes writing this,i had no idea he was ill,just cant believe it,would like to send card to family if someone or jill would like to get in touch. RIP MATE!! TOP MAN!

  13. Jill O'Halloran says:

    Hi Dave, Thanks for your thoughts. It was a very big shock for us all. Luckily Mum was here when It all happened. She went home on the weekend. She is back in Goldthorn Close, Eastern Green now. I have lived in Australia for 24 years now. Don’t know if this message will get to you but my email address is jjohalloran@activ8.net.au if you want to get in touch. We are still finding it hard to accept. Love Jill

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